Playbook Guide

The playbook shows typical expressions and behaviors for each manipulation pattern and different responses that you can use to counter your opponent. Each answer has 3 buttons

Copy

Everyone can copy the responses to their text messages or emails.

Favorites

Saving to favorites is a Pro feature. Considering that there are more than 1500 comebacks in total (and counting), this feature is quite useful for frequent users.

Intended Effect

The label below each response shows the most likely effect your comeback will have on your opponent. As described in the app guide, anti-manipulation is also… manipulation. Use the comebacks responsibly, according to your desired purpose

DISARMING responses are meant to defuse tension by shifting the opponent's focus on expressing feelings instead of making accusations or acting defensively.

EXPOSING responses usually have a negative effect. No one likes to be called out on their true intentions. Use them when you want to regain control of the conversation by placing a mirror in front of your opponent, or when you want to force them to reassess their methods.

Use TACTFUL replies when you want to negotiate your counterpart's response. There is a fifty-fifty chance of opening a communication channel with the “diplomatic” approach.

Use OUTRIGHT responses when you want to convey a levelheaded, confident, clear and plain message, or when you want to express your feelings about the situation in a straightforward manner.

Use DEFLECTING responses when you want to redirect focus on your opponent by passing the ball into their court, or when you want to avoid a direct response.

EMPATHIZING responses are meant to validate the other person’s feelings, triggering a positive response and encouraging them to open up.

Use KICKBACK responses when you want to teach your opponent a lesson or put them down.

MASTERKICK replies have multiple effects on your counterpart. These responses often include gaslighting and passive-aggressive tactics meant to wound your aggressor’s ego. Use them only if you are prepared for retaliation.

Use KNOCKOUT responses when you want to dismiss the aggressor with a little blow to their ego.

SARCASTIC replies are meant to mock the manipulator’s methods and get you a “sweet little passive-aggressive revenge”. Use them if you want to retrieve the “dopamine drops” they stole from you, and if sarcasm is your banter language.

Use DISENGAGING replies when you’re ready to abandon fight. These responses will indirectly tell your opponent that they lost your interest, respect or admiration through their actions.

UNFAZED responses are meant to discourage the manipulator from insisting, suggesting that you are immune to their tactics.

Use OFFBEAT replies when you want to disrupt the manipulator’s train of thought. They are meant to create confusion or “Zen moments” and are one of the most subtle forms of counter-manipulation.

PROVOKING replies are meant to trigger a strong response. They can have a positive or negative effect, depending on the situation.

Use PLAYFUL replies when you want to trigger a positive and engaging response.